It definitely was not insulting. I thought I was adding to your partial critique by saying "from their perspective, they usually think it makes sense". Not only because of the scientifically documented "emotion regulation" side, but also from the very regular "I cannot perfectly predict what 'normal' would be like, since I used to think …
It definitely was not insulting. I thought I was adding to your partial critique by saying "from their perspective, they usually think it makes sense". Not only because of the scientifically documented "emotion regulation" side, but also from the very regular "I cannot perfectly predict what 'normal' would be like, since I used to think I was 'normal' and have been informed that I am not".
In other words, before hitting "Post" on your meme about how you teleport 15 minutes into the future as soon as the shower hits or you sit down to poop there's no simple test to tell you "this is an ADHD thing consistent with the 'time blindless' thing my therapist told me about" or "this is a time-honored tradition among all humans, not just the humans that we didn't know to diagnose with ADHD". While I'm sure there's grifters and people over-extending into an identity, I would put money on the "view from the self" being "that sounds like what my therapist warned me about" rather than "time to get some likes and validation". And this view-from-the-self problem applied to Virgos and Geminis and Engineers and Gamers too, so it really is only a partial critique of DeBoer's post, since we're all humans going through it.
Ngl, I lose anywhere between 15min - 1hr on the toilet and in the shower not because I’m adhd, but because I’m just thinking or reading about random shit.
Sometimes I think diagnoses like adhd are less about “what’s normal or not”, and more about the understanding the distinct ways you process the things we all go through as humans (since to me, it roughly boils down to what chemical/biological factors are influencing your brain processing) :)
It definitely was not insulting. I thought I was adding to your partial critique by saying "from their perspective, they usually think it makes sense". Not only because of the scientifically documented "emotion regulation" side, but also from the very regular "I cannot perfectly predict what 'normal' would be like, since I used to think I was 'normal' and have been informed that I am not".
In other words, before hitting "Post" on your meme about how you teleport 15 minutes into the future as soon as the shower hits or you sit down to poop there's no simple test to tell you "this is an ADHD thing consistent with the 'time blindless' thing my therapist told me about" or "this is a time-honored tradition among all humans, not just the humans that we didn't know to diagnose with ADHD". While I'm sure there's grifters and people over-extending into an identity, I would put money on the "view from the self" being "that sounds like what my therapist warned me about" rather than "time to get some likes and validation". And this view-from-the-self problem applied to Virgos and Geminis and Engineers and Gamers too, so it really is only a partial critique of DeBoer's post, since we're all humans going through it.
Ngl, I lose anywhere between 15min - 1hr on the toilet and in the shower not because I’m adhd, but because I’m just thinking or reading about random shit.
Sometimes I think diagnoses like adhd are less about “what’s normal or not”, and more about the understanding the distinct ways you process the things we all go through as humans (since to me, it roughly boils down to what chemical/biological factors are influencing your brain processing) :)
My wife would relate to this. She is amazed at the way time just spins away for me when I'm in the bath.