I've been where your kid is. And I know it's really uncomfortable when other people bring up my diagnosis -- even though it becomes pretty obvious pretty quickly.
That said... and I can't speak for your kid, only myself, but this might be of some use to you. I don't think it's so much that I want to be treated as "normal", though it's som…
I've been where your kid is. And I know it's really uncomfortable when other people bring up my diagnosis -- even though it becomes pretty obvious pretty quickly.
That said... and I can't speak for your kid, only myself, but this might be of some use to you. I don't think it's so much that I want to be treated as "normal", though it's something close to that. I want to be treated as "fundamentally competent". I want people to trust that, in most matters most of the time, I can handle things as well as any other person. (Which, yes, requires some effort on my part to ensure that is true!)
Thats at least partially true and he does want to feel competent. “Normal” was his word by the way.
The situation with kids is maybe different because people reach out to help in ways that he finds extremely condescending. (And I agree.) As a kid it’s hard to get away from some of these people (they can be your teachers for example).
I've been where your kid is. And I know it's really uncomfortable when other people bring up my diagnosis -- even though it becomes pretty obvious pretty quickly.
That said... and I can't speak for your kid, only myself, but this might be of some use to you. I don't think it's so much that I want to be treated as "normal", though it's something close to that. I want to be treated as "fundamentally competent". I want people to trust that, in most matters most of the time, I can handle things as well as any other person. (Which, yes, requires some effort on my part to ensure that is true!)
Thats at least partially true and he does want to feel competent. “Normal” was his word by the way.
The situation with kids is maybe different because people reach out to help in ways that he finds extremely condescending. (And I agree.) As a kid it’s hard to get away from some of these people (they can be your teachers for example).