I'm 61 and my parents were laissez faire about my grades. In fact, my father once asked my headmaster why I was getting good grades without seeming to do much homework.
There are two different thought streams in your essay and I want to distinguish them as the differences can be subtle.
I'm 61 and my parents were laissez faire about my grades. In fact, my father once asked my headmaster why I was getting good grades without seeming to do much homework.
There are two different thought streams in your essay and I want to distinguish them as the differences can be subtle.
1) There's over-parenting that deprives children of resilience and agency.
2) Then there's providing children with the benefits of your social capital (your network) and financial capital.
Done the wrong way at the wrong age, 2) can have the same effect as 1). But done the right way and at the right age, 2) can be helpful rather than harmful to your children.
Both 1) and 2) are selfish, but it is the rare privileged parent who wouldn't provide 2) in some form.
Great post.
I'm 61 and my parents were laissez faire about my grades. In fact, my father once asked my headmaster why I was getting good grades without seeming to do much homework.
There are two different thought streams in your essay and I want to distinguish them as the differences can be subtle.
1) There's over-parenting that deprives children of resilience and agency.
2) Then there's providing children with the benefits of your social capital (your network) and financial capital.
Done the wrong way at the wrong age, 2) can have the same effect as 1). But done the right way and at the right age, 2) can be helpful rather than harmful to your children.
Both 1) and 2) are selfish, but it is the rare privileged parent who wouldn't provide 2) in some form.
Excellent observation.