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Shani's avatar

All this is correct IMO, and tracks with my personal experience. I am the co-guardian of my adult son who has severe autism. We have "plenary", which means the max. The state's training included a video of a woman who lived alone (so perhaps has a lesser legal guardianship status) and met a man on the internet who invited her to California to go live with him. The guardians tried to stop it, they called the cops in to present her with facts about sexual exploitation etc. But she went. According to NM state law, and the concept of "dignity of risk", they couldn't prevent her. The idea of "dignity of risk" makes sense to me in the abstract. I'm "normal" but I do stupid shit, and I have the right to do stupid shit. So why can't they. But in reality. HELL NO! I broke into tears when the video ended with her getting on a Greyhound. I ran and hugged my son. No, he doesn't have agency, and I'll do everything in my power to keep him safe. The way they train us on the meds is ridiculous too. We can't give him meds, because that's illegal. My son has physical ability, but the training videos show clients who literally can't move, and the caregiver does "hand over hand" so that they are supposedly consenting to take the pill. This has been so weird for me as I was a die-hard "One Flew Over the Cuckoos Nest" type, but of course I had no idea. No damn idea. Thank you Freddie!

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Adam Whybray's avatar

My ex was the manager of an assisting living home/ flats for adults with severe developmental disabilities and neurological impairments and had to put up with an angry rant or two at job fairs by members of the public who asserted that the customers should just be given their agency and freedom - despite the fact that many were incapable of understanding what would be safe to eat or not, how to cross the road etc.

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